How To Find Your Definition Of Happiness

Roger Skibowski
4 min readSep 17, 2022
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The first step to identifying your definition of happiness is to be more aware of the activities that genuinely bring you joy.

To find your own definition of happiness in life, you need to be deeply connected with yourself and your interests before comparing yourself to others. Don’t worry about what makes others happy or fulfilled because it could easily steer you in the wrong direction while throwing you off course from finding what will make you happy.

Determine what makes you feel you are living your best life

Now is the time to concentrate on what is important to you — what makes you feel like you are living your best life. You’ll discover a realization or two, and it will become easier to determine how to move forward and make decisions that support your new personal definition of happiness.

Examples: What activities are essential or enjoyable for me? Is it having a creative outlet, being in nature, spending quality time with friends, and family, etc.? And just as importantly, which activities do I want to avoid?

Brainstorm a life that would make you happy.

You should have a pretty good grasp on what you want out of life. But do you know what it will take to get there? You’ll need to brainstorm and make sure that whatever path you choose, it’s one that will help you become the person you want to be.

If your current life doesn’t match with the future one in your head, think about what changes you can make right now to head in the right direction. You don’t need to go through any drastic changes to move closer to your ideal self or life.

Think about what I could improve, what small things in your current situation: What I could change or add that would improve your day-to-day?

What sort of activities could help change how you feel about yourself? Can these actions relate back to something from your list of passions? How does doing this make you feel like a better version of yourself?

Think about what success means to you.

Success means different things to different people. A friend of mine says success is…

Roger Skibowski